Your Personal Tribe
A few years ago, I was asked ‘Who’s in your tribe?’
At the time, I scoffed wondering what the hell was a tribe and why did I need one?
Sure, we’ve all heard the term – it takes a village, but what does that actually mean?
In its simplest form, your personal tribe is a group of people that support you.
- They are your advocates,
- Your fans,
- Your peeps,
- They prop you up when you are down,
- They cheer you on from the sidelines, and
- They ultimately bring out the best in you.
What’s not to love? A whole team that has your best interests at heart.
Having a personal tribe, means you have a team of people who have grown with you, are a sounding board for you or people who are there to give you advice.
If we look at Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs – Maslow has Love and Belonging smack bang in the middle.
I can feel guilty about the past, apprehensive about the future, but only in the present can I act. The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness.
But how do you know if you have a tribe or even how to get one. To be honest, the likelihood is you already have one, but never really considered them as your personal team.
Be around people who are good for your soul
With Covid 2.0 hitting our lives as we speak, it has started me thinking about who I turn to in times of joy, turmoil, success, help or even support.
So, when I sat down and thought about the people who are important in my life, the role they play and what I need, I considered the following:
- Who can I tell my deepest darkest secrets, concerns and worries to?
- Who knows me and has been on my journey of love, sadness, depression, spirituality and growth?
- Who can I talk to about the difficulties of being a new business owner, the fears, the failures, the success, my family, my health – without judgement, but keeping me moving forward?
- Who can I talk to about different coaching techniques? How to acquire new clients, industry trends and continue my learning and development?
- Who is going to help me keep the fun going, remembering to laugh at life, laugh at myself and not take it all so seriously?
Take a sneak peak at my personal tribe
My Grounding Peeps
My Grounding Peeps ground me, have known me for a long period of time, have seen me at my ultimate best and worst. Aren’t afraid to call it as they see it.
They know me, they accept me.
Why are these people important to me?
They’ll call me on my bullshit. They know what makes me tick (and how to push every single button), they are gentle, caring and love me warts and all.
My Business Owners Group
Being a new business owner, there are many trials and tribulations that friends, ex- colleagues or even family may not understand. I have been fortunate to find a group of 5 women who are all at the start of their entrepreneurial journey, and through weekly goal sessions we have become friends who share success, rant without judgement when we just need to get something off our chest – basically sharing the good, the bad and the ugly.
Why are these beautiful souls important to me ?
Well, I can have the shittiest of days, the best of days, challenging days or days that are just blah. They accept without judgement, give me space, provide guidance and feedback, and have the purest desire to see me succeed and be the best me I can be.
My Spiritual Team
Over the last few months I have been on a spiritual journey. Spirituality means different things to different people – for me it has been an opportunity to look inwardly, whilst considering the bigger picture. I have learnt more about what I value, who I am and embracing my souls purpose.
Why is this team important to me?
Working with this team has helped to balance me, calm me, give me strength, and help me focus on what is important.
I have been working with this team to trust my intuition, trust the process and trust that life will unfold as it needs to, when it needs to.
This team has helped me to experience and journey through astral and spiritual plains – and consider how i want to live my life.
My Health and Wellness Group
For those that know me, you know I have a laundry list of autoimmune and endocrine issues and for over 20 years I have put these on the back burner, resulting in a series of health challenges. So, I have joined a facebook group of people that share similar conditions.
Why do I need this group of people?
Because sometimes I just feel bat shit crazy with the various things that happen on a daily basis. It is nice to discuss this and how different people are managing their lives, as well as sharing my own journey. Granted this team is not a ‘person’ or ‘group of people’ but it is part of my health and well-being and something I cherish.
My Coaching Mastermind
As a new business focussing on coaching, it is important for me to have industry peers. People who I can share challenges with, ask questions specific to coaching and continue my learning and growth – I do this through Coaching masterminds.
Why is this team important to me?
As a coach supporting others become their ultimate selves, during a particular tricky stage of all of our lives, it is great to have others who are experiencing similar challenges.
My Coach, My Mentor, My Sponsorship Team
This is a team that I reach out to when I need advice, on the go. We’ve known each other for a long time and have a deep friendship. We don’t need to see each other every day, but if I need advice, I reach out to these people.
Why is this team important?
Sometimes you don’t want to have the long conversations of ‘hello, how are you?’, ‘how are your family?’, ‘how is work?’ – you just want short, sharp advice by someone that knows you….for me this team is made up of ex-colleagues, leaders I have previously worked for.
We keep it short and sharp and get shit done!
Last but by no means least, are my fun patrol.
Life can be hard. Being a new start up can be hard, Covid is hard.
Life can be all too serious.
Welcome to the fun patrol. They keep it light and breezy. We talk shit, we put shit on each other, we drink, eat, watch Netflix together
Why are my girls so important?
Easy – they remind me to let my guard down, to poke fun through all the seriousness and to remember I need to take my foot off the pedal and have a giggle.
It’s important to note:
Some of these people are included across teams. Most of them don’t know each other – but the one thing they have in common is me and my best interests.
Now, I didn’t just make this tribe up on the spot. This has happened over a period of time, and if I am honest the roles and needs evolve, just as I evolve.
Now it’s your turn
Do you have a group of people who support you, cheer you on, give you advice?
Here are some simple steps to help you identify ‘who’s got your back, jack?’
- Let’s start with you! Do you know who you are? What you value and what you hold most dear?
- Now that you know who you are, it’s time to identify what you need and who you need to give you support. Things to consider include: Do you need someone to give you advice, someone to listen to you, a coach, a mentor, someone who can provide business or career advice or someone who can help you with life.
- Will this be a formal relationship, informal, someone to keep you accountable or someone that will just be there to listen. Do you need the face to face contact, is zoom ok or just a simple text?
When you sit back and look at these people and the impact they will have on your life, do you feel supported?
Do you feel like someone has your back in every aspect of your life?
If you’re looking to add a coach to your tribe, who can hold a safe space for you to learn more about yourself, what you value, and how to live your ultimate life with passion, purpose and intent, let’s see if we’re a good fit.